Young people often have a different view of time than those
of us who are older. Life’s ups and down
usually serve to teach us that time is
fleeting and is not always on our side like we thought it was when we were
younger. Over this past weekend, I was
hit with that reality as I attended a memorial service for a dear friend who
was younger than me. His wife is a widow
in her early fifties. Suddenly, the
future seems less certain; and how I spend each day seems to matter even more.
Casey was a simple
man who lived a simple life. He wasn’t rich or famous, and he didn’t care
about being either. He was a humble,
gentle, and kind soul who would have given you the shirt off his back – even if
he didn’t have another one for himself. My
husband and I were blessed to know him and his wife for nearly 35 years. During those years, there were many times
that we were on the receiving end of his generous
heart. He loved his family and
others well. His passing was unexpected
and sudden. A testament to his character
was seen on Saturday when nearly 350 people came together to pay their
respects.
Sunday was an annual Hallmark holiday set aside to honor
our mothers. For many, this is a joyous
day; but not everyone is able to rejoice.
I personally know at least four people whose experience was
one of remembrance instead of celebration – as they spent their first
Mother’s Day without a mother. Others
have longed to become mothers and have been unable to. Some are walking with their mothers through
the darkness of Alzheimer’s or other diseases that have stolen the relationship
they used to have together. Others are
estranged from their mothers or never experienced a true mother’s love. Still others spent the day waiting for some
kind of contact (that never came) from their own children - or have experienced the loss of a child. And I know of one man for whom Mother’s Day
is an anniversary of his now deceased wife’s diagnosis of terminal illness.
What do these things have in common? All of them point us to the brevity of life and the futility of anything that isn’t
eternal. That doesn’t mean we aren’t
meant to enjoy life on this earth; God has given us a beautiful world and people
to love (James 1:17). He wants us to spend our time here loving him
and loving others. But he has made it
clear in his Word that the present is
not the point; it is intended to be preparation for the future – for eternity.
It’s okay to celebrate human relationships and enjoy human
friendships, and it’s okay to mourn when those relationships end on earth. Even Jesus cried when he lost a close friend
(John 11:35), and he knew he was
about to raise him from the dead! What
Jesus understood is that our lives on earth are but a breath (Psalm 39:4-5) and only meaningful in
light of eternity (2 Peter 3:8-13). While our days are numbered by God, we are
not privy to that timeline ourselves. We
simply can’t see what lies ahead for us in this life or how much longer our
time here will be. But, as Christians,
we do know what the future holds – eternity
in the presence of God!